It is not the fraternity or sorority. It’s the use of the blackball to eliminate a candidate (pledge) who hopes to make the grade. Some carry that pain for a lifetime. Impossible to forget.
I rushed the fraternity my dad was in and didn’t get a bid. I didn’t know at the time that legacies were pretty much a shoe in, but in retrospect if they weren’t going to take me on my own merits them screw em.