Our President and Melania have said several times that Melania is very independent and quite often does her own thing. He understands that and apparently it works very well in their relationship. Whereas I think our President’s first two wives were needy. Melania has confidence in herself as she should from her past work.
Melania being her own woman is probably why she’s outlasted the other wives by twice as many years. Trump surrounds himself with independent people.
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/23/us/politics/melania-trump-betsy-devos-bullying-michigan.html?ribbon-ad-idx=21&rref=politics
"Melania Trump, in Michigan, Urges Middle Schoolers to ‘Choose Kindness’" Like that she gets down on the children's level.