Oh, I understand completely. I’ve said many times that if I win the lottery I’m going to claim it through a blind trust, otherwise every sorry relative I haven’t seen in twenty years will turn up on my doorstep wanting money. None of my immediate family fall into that category, thankfully, but there are aunts, uncles and cousins particularly on my mom’s side of the family. I grew up watching the “good” aunts whisper back and forth to each other at family gathering, asking who made what, afraid to eat anything the rest of the relatives brought, put it that way.
“afraid to eat anything the rest of the relatives brought”
now THAT is sad ...
BTW, I totally get the notion of “good” aunts too ...
sad too, but once you get old enough, pretty much all you can do is shake your head and laugh when you get tipsy enough to share some of the stories with friends. naturally, it turns out pretty much everyone has such stories to tell.
back in the day when Chris Rock was still funny instead of just being embittered, his funnest stuff was based on family stories