[metmom]

My m-i-l was deteriorating from dementia.

It’s more than one person can do to take care of someone with that condition. You need 24 hour surveillance. It’s just so demanding.

I can certainly understand why someone would put a parent with dementia in a nursing home eventually, especially if they become violent.

Very sad.

[cva66snipe]

Both my sister and Mom had developed it from a Stroke. My sister could walk. My Mom lost use of her right side and never did walk afterward.

[The Westerner]

My mom, too. Fortunately she could afford a $6k/mo snf for dementia. She was furious at us but actually had more love, hugs, companionship there! They did not drug them, instead talked with to calm them. Some yelled though most not. Mom died real soon, so was spared.

I hope no man judges how my family handled the dilemmas of the aging, independence loving American mom or dad, grandparent. Every single time you must deal with it is like a shock and disorients, kind of what losing a home must be like, MMom.