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The Three Divorce Magnets: Knowing the pitfalls that can derail a marriage will help you avoid them
National Review ^ | 06/17/2017 | Diane Medved

Posted on 06/17/2017 6:57:33 PM PDT by SeekAndFind

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To: ArtDodger

Zero upsides to it as it stands today.

Zero. For the guy. Its a one sided contract only he is held to.

For women its great. Even if it fails they win big.


41 posted on 06/17/2017 11:09:03 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man ( Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

People change after they get married. You cannot rely that the pre-wife person will be the same after they are the wife.


42 posted on 06/17/2017 11:10:56 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man ( Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: chris37

Like the lottery, for men today, the only way not to lose is to not play the game.


43 posted on 06/17/2017 11:13:17 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man ( Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: TianaHighrider

Delusion like yours has screwed a lot of guys in divorce court.

They all think their woman is not like all the others. They are all the same. It is funny how men go to such great lengths to deny this, and are surprised as they keep getting burned and screwed over again and again.

Once you recognize the truth, you can then learn to deal with it effectively. No one can deal with anything properly if they are in denial of it.


44 posted on 06/17/2017 11:18:46 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man ( Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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my opinion...i dont care who it is...family, friends...lover...married...ITS NOT EASY LIVING WITH ANY ONE!!!..after about 2,3 years, it becomes more and more difficult thing to do. Its all great at first, then the personality clashes happen. Dont wanna be a buzz kill..but its the truth.


45 posted on 06/17/2017 11:18:57 PM PDT by basalt
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To: Mark

The other saying is you only really see the true woman you married when you are in divorce court.


46 posted on 06/17/2017 11:21:09 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man ( Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: Secret Agent Man
The other saying is you only really see the true woman you married when you are in divorce court.

I dunno about that. You can tell a lot by how someone treats a person they dislike and how they treat those they have nothing to gain from.

A vicious person will be vicious in more places than divorce court.

47 posted on 06/17/2017 11:23:48 PM PDT by TChris ("Hello", the politician lied.)
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To: TChris

You can also tell a lot about a spouse by how she treats her family.

My wife and Ihave been together for 30 years and it keeps getting better with us. Couldn’t imagine not growing old together. Sad reading about the horrors others have gone through.


48 posted on 06/17/2017 11:55:11 PM PDT by zek157
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To: Secret Agent Man

I’ve seen too many decent guys get ruined financially and emotionally, all because their wives got bored with them.

I’m 59, and consider myself one of the last Old School Bachelors.

I’m polite and kind to females, and I do have a lot of respect for the few couples I know who seem genuinely devoted to each other.

But you’re not talking about anyone under the age of 50. And who knows what goes on between two people when no one else is watching.


49 posted on 06/18/2017 12:25:49 AM PDT by Nothingburger
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To: RoosterRedux
Most importantly...don't marry a lesbian who wants to pretend to be normal.

About that...
See, it's not polite to admit the core of feminism is homosexuality. Once you do, sifting out the bad seed becomes much easier. At any rate, that should be an automatic out for a marriage although normally I'm a hardcore opponent of divorce.

50 posted on 06/18/2017 1:14:23 AM PDT by stormhill
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Been with my wife almost 53 years. And it was easy.

The magic is simple, find someone you really do love, or can learn to, and NEVER close the lines of communication. If the two of you can sit down and talk, and I mean talk not try to shout the other one down, you can figure out anything. But you both have to budge and make a real effort to understand what your other is saying. Don’t guess, look and ask for the meaning. Don’t break in and destroy the other’s efforts, and in some cases, compromise. It isn’t that painful. Nor is it that tough.

But it is that rewarding.

rwood


51 posted on 06/18/2017 1:16:59 AM PDT by Redwood71
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Crazy wife\Gold Digging wife syndrome..dealing with it now, filed for divorce last month! She been living a series of lies for 30 years..Woman is 59, been married 3 yrs, lived with her two before that..When I said I do things changed..


52 posted on 06/18/2017 1:18:10 AM PDT by dpetty121263 (Crazy\Gold Digging wife)
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To: SeekAndFind

The Three Divorce Magnets?
Asking the ol’ lady to cook & clean and be happy to greet him when he walks in the door. : )


53 posted on 06/18/2017 2:12:55 AM PDT by minnesota_bound
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To: SeekAndFind

Divorce needs to be equally and judicially as costly for women as it is for men, then divorce would be cut in half. With the current system most woman hit “pay dirt” in divorce.


54 posted on 06/18/2017 2:44:16 AM PDT by pke
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To: amihow

I wasn’t referring to myself, but a good friend, who happens to be male.

His wife is a fat slob who spends her day in sweats playing on the computer. She does nothing else.

He sees good looking smart, well dressed , interesting women at work every day.

I keep warning her but she doesn’t listen and I assume that means she doesn’t care.

If She doesn’t, why should he?


55 posted on 06/18/2017 4:13:51 AM PDT by mom4melody (,)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Oh, another wife-bashing session? Getting all too frequent around here.


56 posted on 06/18/2017 4:17:38 AM PDT by miss marmelstein
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To: Secret Agent Man

Again, these threads always turn into the most disgusting anti-women attacks, in fact, disgusting in most ways. Seriously, who cares that you married some lady who doesn’t like to sleep with you? Talk about TMI!


57 posted on 06/18/2017 4:25:02 AM PDT by miss marmelstein
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To: SeekAndFind

Hollywood promoting extramarital affairs, morning and daytime talk show bombardment geared toward housewives, liberal mindset “if it feels good do it”


58 posted on 06/18/2017 4:29:24 AM PDT by ronnie raygun (Trump plays chess the rest are still playing checkers)
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To: Secret Agent Man

My solution:

It should cost $10,000 to get married and $50 to get divorced.

/s


59 posted on 06/18/2017 4:36:22 AM PDT by mad_as_he$$
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To: roadcat
I told him I'd shoot him, not her if he fell for that.

LOL!! Not laughing at your brother's misfortune, but at your wisdom and pluck for keeping him from getting stupid for a second time.

60 posted on 06/18/2017 4:50:11 AM PDT by Hardastarboard (Three most annoying words on the internet - "Watch the Video")
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