9 years ago my son was getting serious about a young lady. She was very fat and had been from infancy. I told him it was not a good idea, that she was totally self centered as evidenced by her physique. It is ̣ years later. He is an Army helicopter pilot and just found out that two of his three girls are not his and she is conniving with the latest boyfriend to tie up his income in a divorce. He is quite devastated as he had not understood what was happening. She kept her activities to times he was TDY. He will try now to keep all three girls because he, and I, fear what she will do to them. He loves the girls, even now knowing he has no genetic link to two of them. He says he has been their dad since their births and that doesn't change. Wife cannot see anything beyond today.
Nine years ago I offered to take him with me to Việt Nam to find a wife. I knew several candidates . All are very intelligent and would keep house and/or work, whatever the situation requires. An American woman is a major risk for a man unless he has known her all his life. We are Catholics and marriage is not something you do for a little while until something else comes along.