As a female, I would never eat out w/ a male friend/colleague w/out his wife’s being invited (or my better half), or unless it’s a work thing in which all are invited.
It’s about respect: for self, for my better half, the male & his wife. It’s about being above reproach.
According to my fella, I’m risk-adverse to the point of paranoia about home security. Had to crack down on him not leaving his keys in the double-cylinder when we leave home, got ticked off when he thinned out the brush that prevented passerby lookie-loos... and other adjustments to playing house together.
Why value our relationship less? or a pleasant work environment?
There’s nothing to account for if there’s not even the possibility. This seems a little old fashioned to me at forty-mumble years old. But it’s also reassuring.
I agree w/ the Chinese. Excitement is over-rated; I don’t want to live an interesting life. Ease & comfort are more my speed.
“There’s nothing to account for if there’s not even the possibility.”
This.
If it can’t happen, then neither can accusations that it did.