So many words, when the answer is simple.
Bottom line? Sex is a biological imperative. Men (and women) can no more suppress the urge to merge than they can eschew the need to eat, or respond to danger with fight or flight.
Evolutionary biology will always win out.
And when the wife decides the husband no longer is “worthy” of that urge to merge, the husband gets more and more frustrated.
I’d honestly rather be by myself than told the only place I can visit is closed - permanently. After 4+ years, I bailed. I’d rather NOT be with her ever again, because of the attitude that last few times we were together that she was doing me a favor, or that it was a chore.