Hopefully, you can escape. LIBs are truly insufferable. There is a good life away from them.
When the children are grown and parents have left or passed on, definitely something to consider.
Sadly, NJ has a lot to offer and has visibly declined in my lifetime; there is something to be said for living one hour from the ocean on the one hand, an hour in the other direction from mountains, and an hour in a third direction from farms...