It is! I bypassed the entire dating scene during my twenties and I am SO thankful that I made that choice. It’s led to so many good ones and frankly I wonder why more young women don’t choose to just focus on building their own life. I do think our free society is often loaded with temptation, but thing is, that it does give women the ability to decide the person they want to be and express who they truly are.
Hence, women with slutty preferences end up screwing around and women who are decent end up being able to choose a quiet life of dedication and hard work without making a mess of their personal lives.
Forgive me for suggesting, but that sounds an awful lot like what the feminazis like to preach.
It sounds like you are wired a lot differently than most women. Good luck finding a guy that matches your personality. Not being offensive, just an observation.
I disagree that avoiding relationships so you can “find yourself” is a model that should be elevated in society. The whole problem with western countries is that people are delaying childbirth until later and later, often to the point where they need fertility treatments to make it happen. This is a model that causes a society to die out and crater economically.
While not every person is suited to become a spouse and/or parent, the model for a healthy society is for most people to marry and have children. The idea that people need a decade after college to be “established” enough to start a family is less than convincing. And if it takes someone that long to find a “suitable” spouse, they’re probably being overly picky to the point of being a dysfunctional neurotic.
The idea that having a partner is somehow some kind of albatross around your neck that holds you back sounds indistinguishable from feminazi “fish without a bicycle” claptrap. A partner is there to support and uplift you. It’s not hard to find examples of those relationships out there. The idea that we avoid all relationships because some can be dysfunctional is not taking a job because some jobs are bad or not seeing a movie because some movies are bad.
So the idea that we would celebrate avoiding relationships doesn’t sell to me. I can envision an elderly person who stayed single and never had children being much more likely to regret it than a person who got married and had children.