“...what if the abuser played for the opposing team?”
I don’t know if this story hubby told me will come across correctly but I’ll try.
The hockey player Dennis Potvin was accused of beating his wife and it made the news. His team was playing the Rangers in Madison Square Garden. To taunt him the crowd chanted: Beat Your Wife, Potvin, Beat Your Wife.
If you have kids, never take them to an English Premier League soccer game.
The Most Offensive Chants In English Football History (Language)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=akHhSt3kY-4