Well, everything is a blessing. The “ex” part, in your case. I won’t inquire about the painful details but it bears repeating that without 400 years of Egyptian slavery the family of Abraham and Isaac would not have become Israel. God can make great blessings from much suffering. Those doing the suffering probably find it hard to grasp but still true.
I am sure your experience has given you this much. Now you know what a good wife looks like having spent some time wrestling a treacherous serpent.
I have a better idea, anyway...