"I absolutely adore you "I'm not judging because I wasn't there" people. You absolve yourself of the responsibility of passing judgement because you somehow believe it is the compassionate or right thing to do, when in reality you are enabling irresponsibility by your lack of courage to make a moral determination using your own powers of reason and ration."
Of course the bible says that such truncated-information judging is characteristic of a fool, but who listens?
I think one of the most serious issues with modern society is the stigma attached to being “judgmental”.
I went to a small memorial observance arranged by the family of a friend who had lost their son. It was a small, graveside affair, maybe 20 people. I had driven about 30 miles in rush hour traffic to be there, and had taken the time to put on a suit, etc.
At the appointed time, everyone was there except for two cousins, and everyone waited. And waited.
They showed up at 20 minutes after the hour with barely a word of apology, and nobody even reprimanded them.
I was feeling quite judgmental, but...it apparently isn’t allowed these days. You might make someone feel uncomfortable by judging them.