I have discovered over the years that women have an uncanny ability to forever arrive at the determination that everything indeed is all our fault.
Try this one: one girl I had been seeing for some time and been living together with for a bit started with the all-your-fault habit and began making a constant refrain of it. One morning, after she had been out late with some friends I arose when she was in the shower and on the way to the kitchen noticed a small slip of paper on the couch and half-hidden between two cushions. Reading it and bypassing the first part, it ended with a handprinted sentence that read: “Remember, sit on a happy face!”
When confronted with this slip of paper after she exited the shower, was she embarrassed that she had been caught cheating? Worried that I would think less of her? Uncertain of how I might respond or frightened that I would break up with her?
No. She instantly stated that I was to blame for digging through her purse like some manner of untrustworthy street-thief, and went on a long-winded excoriation of evil intents proven by the fact that I would go through her purse, then proceeded to tell all our friends about how untrustworthy I was because I had gone through her purse.
Right. Too bloody right that it was not at all about how she had been caught, it was rather about that she now knew I was unworthy of her trust because I had gone digging about her purse.
I know this is not a comparison compared to your experience, but I thought you might appreciate the laugh.
Cheers.
The reason I chuckled is because your experience isn't unique. I've heard stories very similar to yours before, with the exact same results.
Whatever else you do: don't be me. If you're with a woman who doesn't wrap her arms around you every once in awhile and tell you she loves you for what you think is no reason at all --- RUN AWAY.
Exactly. When men cheat we are disgusting dogs that only care about our own needs.
When women cheat it is because we didn’t show them enough attention and they felt neglected.
Oh, you all did note that I had NOT gone through her purse but happened to notice a slip of paper stuck between two couch-cushions, yes?
Just pointing out that according to her I MUST have gone through her purse to have found that slip of paper, and of course she immediately discounted the statement that it was simply found not discovered after digging about her purse in any way.
The fact that she had cheated was totally irrelevant, of course (according to her responces)!
Not that it makes a difference at this point...