Good advice, mate, but I wold add just one thing: some go shrieking bonkers / batsh1t crazy after the child is born. Mine went bloody psycho after the birth of her first child and it was an absolute looney-bin situation for some time after that.
Oh, and for those of you still wondering; yes, it is all your fault. You might as well stop trying to prove any woman is wrong when she has decided that no matter what the problem is, it is not hers.
It is yours.
Get used to it.
Case in point; ask any female about some friend of theirs who has separated from their boyfriend or husband if you think they can ever wind up together again. The answer will always be ‘maybe, but he has to change’.
Right then? HE has to CHANGE.
Says it all there, doesn’t it.
You can’t always get what you want, you get what you need. And Copernicus discovered the world does not revolve around a big hairy taco.
The End. ;)
Where are all the female freepers?
Looked to see if metmom chimmed in on this thread. I believe you were just describing her per an exchange I had with her on another thread the other day.
She would try to put you right in your place with her male bashing wisdom.
I would for sure get the popcorn to witness her response to your postings.
More power to ya!
Yes, it's our fault they're batshit crazy. We did it to them. Yup, all our fault. And every bad decision / every decision they now regret is our fault too.
Yep, and we're always the ones who have to change. Not them, NO NO NO NO NO NO! They NEVER do anything wrong. No sir, they NEVER do anything to piss us off. Nope, that's all our fault too!
Truth be told, I've heard that for 20 of the last near 30 years I've been married. I've about had my fill and I'm ready to walk. My wife lately (as in the last two years now) has done things I'd NEVER thought she'd do, and said things I'd NEVER thought she'd say. To say I no longer recognize her would be truthful.
We're in counseling, she's said repeatedly to our counselor it's all my fault, I have to change, it's not her. It doesn't matter how many times SHE (our counselor) tells her it's never just one person's fault, that seems to be wife's position and she's sticking to it.
I'm at the point I know every 2 bedroom apartment, condo and town home within 15-20 minutes of my home and I've visited a few of them. I already have my game plan on when to take half of all the accounts, how to do it without her finding out about it until it's already done, and how I'm going to get my belongings out of the house when she's gone so I can do it in peace. It'll all happen on the same day.
I'm so seriously fed up with "it's all your fault" when everything she blames me for are decisions SHE made about HER life without asking me what I thought. She quit her full time job one day to stay home with the kids, cutting $50k out of our household income without so much as talking to me about it. That was 17 years ago. I've been the sole bread winner for 17 years. She blames me for her decision to stay home and be "stuck with the kids" and then again for my working so hard to keep a roof over our heads and food in our mouths.
She's the one that shit $50k down the crapper and put all the financial burden on me! That's my frigging fault?
Batshit crazy I tell ya. All of 'em.