I did misunderstand your post.We have 3 in the family and your right they keep it to themselves.
Thank you for your reply. I was on what is considered a large department so the experiences of people just across our department could vary greatly. The cultures of different departments even in our own region also varied greatly. Since I was on our hazmat team we participated in many regional drills with the military and distant departments. I interacted with a lot of people from other places. There are many similarities, but sometimes the way we looked at handling the same problems was completely opposite.
All I am trying to reinforce is that sometimes the experiences of those even in the same field can vary greatly.