**I tell every young man who will listen: Take your future into your own hands and put on a rubber. And never, ever marry.**
Well, I suppose that if a guy doesn’t fear God, then that might be a attitude to take, FRiend.
I was fortunate to have parents that helped instill Godly principles in me, so that when I did go out on my own, I had at least a fighting chance to make good decisions. Then came their divorce, and I knew then that I had to be very selective about who I would give my all to.
And let me tell you, by the time I was 20, I was 6’2”, a very fit 185, tough (rode a bull in a rodeo once. Once was enough), handsome (my beautiful wife wouldn’t have given me a second look if that weren’t the case), and had a Mach 1, and later a Vette.
So, getting good looking dates was REAL easy. Taking advantage of most of them would have been almost as easy. I know for fact that I was dropped more than once for not going to the next level. It wasn’t for lack of hormones. I was regularly allowing myself to get steamed up with a girl, only to have to summon the will power to put on the brakes. It was REALLY tough sometimes.
I was settled in to my single life, and had set high qualifications for any girl I’d date. Then, at 23, I met my future wife in a bar (not exactly the place for high qualifications). Within a month, I’d have done anything she asked. I found her to be everything I could hope for.
Turned out that she had high qualifications to be met by her suitor: tall, handsome, tough yet sweet and sensitive, AND preferably a virgin. 38 years later I’m still glad that I met her standards. It didn’t take long after the wedding night to find out just how stupid the “ya first gotta know if she’s good in bed” advise was. When a man and woman are completely in love with each other, that worry is quickly eliminated.
I’ve seen so many of my former classmates, that felt playing around was very worthwhile, go through divorce, mainly because they weren’t careful enough to find the right one to begin with.
Loose sexual standards, and all the problems they bring, are probably the biggest causes of the downfall of our society.
“because they weren’t careful enough to find the right one to begin with.”
You are a lot more careful when you are only going to do it once.
I met mine right here on FR.
Thanks for sharing your story.
God bless you and your wife. May you have many more happy years together.