I treated my kids in an adult manner. In other words they were expected to be courteous, respectful, responsible, etc. We never spoke to them in anything but adult language. They were expected to sit at any dinner table in a peaceful manner.
The problem is that those are not necessarily adult values anymore.
I think the problem is that children are treated as adults in all aspects, not as formative minors. One of the worst relationship dynamics is for an adult and his child to be “best friends.”
I agree. I teach my son adult reasoning and hold him to mature standards. If there is a problem it’s the people who didn’t have any parenting influencing children in a negative way. If my son hears bad language he turns off what he’s listening to and tells me about it. It’s almost like he’s helping me be a parent in a way...that can’t be bad.