The woman’s mother had divorced & remarried & pretty much
cut off all connection to her ex-husband’s family (us). She had already done so years before her daughter & husband were
killed in the car wreck with the illegal. - We tried to
maintain some contact; but the mother was not at all
interested and we didn’t push it. - You’re right, though.
The illegal murdered them just as surely as if he had taken
a gun and shot them; he just used a car and a jug of
tequila (or what ever it was) as weapons.