Glad you got away. Some people never do.
Have one last item, the house...
of course I deserve nothing and we will leave the rest as u know it...
Spiritually I am guided to pay off the house and gift it to her, as God tells us blessing those who curse us is loke piuring hot coals on their heads
Sounds strange, but hear me out...
The house is a very unique architecture and took a long time to sell because of it. She has her Boyfriend there and he provides little or nothing to upkeep etc.
The house will be hers and it will pull her down as she has no one to care for it, no one to order about and cadge because I was less than her measure..
And I am FREE!!!