The big thing for her is the general malaise. I don't "care" about anything. My doctor has told me I had a blunted affect. I don't get really happy. I don't get really upset. I used to have hobbies I was passionate about. Always had a pretty nice yard, clean vehicles. Now, none of that really matters at all.
apathy- Yep- I am too- (although I do get angry about injustice still - but mainly I have just lost interest in most things-) The thing I think that drives us to it is fighting fighting fighting and ALWAYS losing- it takes it’s toll- it really does-
I think another thing is that the pain and exhaustion is so relentless that that is all we can really put our energies into trying to combat- and so we lose interest in other things- (We kidna become a little selfish In this regard- I have a hard time sympathizing with others who might get sick, or have pain- I’ve become pretty self-centered unfortunately- something I don’t like about myself now- I also find I don’t have patience that I used to have too- but I think this is a result of being fed up with the condition more than anything)
Hopefully your wife will be understanding-