Posted on 08/19/2015 8:23:19 AM PDT by NetAddicted
“Welcome! Come in,” said a strong, Middle-East accented voice, as I hesitated at the door.
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Interesting read.
The rabbi gave a few nuggets of wisdom, IMO, but he is way too heavy on the “if the wife ain’t happy, nobody’s happy” angle. Seems he places a disproportionate amount of burden on the man to cater to the wife. That’s not man camp...it’s the makings of a doormat camp.
Both spouses should put the other first, equally.
I don’t believe in marrying quickly, either...you’re pretty much marrying a stranger.
The man is brilliant. Could use some queen treatment, pretty much ignored here.
We (mostly I) came to a breaking point last year-it is very hard for a woman to feel taken for granted. Especially when the wife is trying her best to be submissive and uplifting.
How to get my husband to read this?
It’s rare that I see a man who loves his wife as Christ loves the church, sacrificing himself for her. When I do see it, however, the woman is dedicated to helping and loving her husband to the best of her ability.
God places much more responsibility on men than women in most areas of life. They are the spiritual leaders, responsible for raising their children in the Lord. They are the providers, protectors, prophets and priests to their families. Women are to be their helpmeets in those areas. The bulk of the burden rests on the man.
This rabbi gets how crucial a loving leader is to creating a secure and healthy family.
I agree with you that men do have a great deal of responsibilities to live up to spiritually.
But I agree with the author that some of what the rabbi teaches has a feminist flavor to it. “Women are perfect”....right there he automatically elevates us to a level above that of men.
And the part about men being pieces of meat without a woman. Well, that’s what I’d be without my husband. It goes both ways, you know?
I just see a lot of things in the article that would lead to entitled wives.
You are correct. It’s probably that in my world I see many husbands give more of themselves to their jobs and/or hobbies than to their wives. I’m biased ;-).
As an example, I drove past a guy I had known in college walking hand in hand with his wife going into a restaurant. I almost cried because I had been asking my husband to go out for coffee on a Saturday morning for months-no time for that. Going out for dinner, ever, was out of the question. He was very busy with work, and helping out his brothers and parents. The only attention I got was late at night: his needs were met. One can be lonely even with a faithful spouse. It came to a crisis point and things are better, but I still would like to be treated like a queen occaisionally.
Good post.
Northstar mom, can you tell your husband, in no uncertain terms (but nicely) that he was supposed to leave his family and cleave to you a long time ago? It’s great that he wants to help out his parents and his brothers, but you’re the priority.
I’ve found that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. I believe in talking about things. The women in my husband’s family hold things in and stew about them rather than bring something up that might offend...I can’t relate to their way of thinking.
You can be sweet, but you can let him know that your heart is breaking for him to just take you out now and then.
About the article...the reason I went off on a tangent is because lately I’ve happened to come across wives who browbeat their husbands. I don’t understand why the men put up with it.
bfl
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