Devastated? Seriously? If that is the case he needs to turn in his balls.
I am a registered nurse and black,too. I have taken care of old white folks that say slightly borderline things such as “you’re pretty smart...for a colored gal” or “where are you from, your grammar is so good”..(guess my Bachelor’s of Science is working}. I cannot say I am devastated when those things happen. I would have thought of it as just one less a$$hole to deal with.