Exactly: a key distinction that most people don't seem to "get". And if the two women don't "get" this, they certainly have no qualification to be in charge of religious education!
The line about orientation or identity came from a homosexual activist group quoted by the biased journalist. Whether the principals in this article get it or not, is not made clear.
I can’t help thinking that there are people who could be happy and live moral lives in the context of chaste friendship, but the culture does not give them any vision of an intimate association that doesn’t involve sexual use.
Someone remarked upthread, “Why couldn’t they just be friends?” Why? Because we live in a culture that spells Love, S-E-X. A person could reasonably believe, no matter how much she does for others, that she is not capable of love, simply because she doesn’t feel an overwhelming urge for sex. What kind of a mess do you end up with?