Yes, I agree. And this is where it is the problem for a whole culture. We are making fatherhood optional - and it is the children who suffer.
Sarah Palin gave a greeting on father’s day, just recently, saying: “Thank you for being the rock upon which a family can be built!” And this is true. The rates of illegitimacy in any ethnic group corelate to the rates of crime and educational failure.
About two generations ago - earlier in the 20th century - a girl in this position would not be allowed to retain custody of her child (in Australia and Britain, and I suppose the United States). It would termed ‘in moral danger’, and given to either the grandparents - Todd and Sarah - or the father - Levi, he is married and has legitimate children. Only people with legally approved unions were seen as fit to raise a child. This was a harsh ruling, but it prevented children from being dragged around with different guest fathers, and the instability that involves.
Men and fathers are not optional.
Fathers are critical to the human experience. Even Jesus had Joseph on Earth.