Even on that level the relationship is often a farce, with more promiscuity being seen than if the two were simply “friends.”
But they have managed to get you to misfocus. The point was to capture the “official” word — not yours at all. Now that they have that idol in hand, they will use it in swooning service.
I can control what I say, and what I think. I make no bones about rejecting the association of "marriage" with what the sodomites do.