[tiki]

As the grandmother of children of divorce let me tell you if they have a willing father they need to be able to spend consistent time with him. Kids are resilient and if the parents are good they will see that they get to see their friends and do their activities.

My grandkids got taken across the country to be left home alone most of the time. No friends, no activities, very little food, rags for clothes all despite hefty child support.

Thank God for the internet I was able to buy them coats and clothes that they chose and send them to them.

They spent all summer with their father but it isn’t like regular living, it was special and their father spent all his non-working time with them but it wasn’t day to day normal living because they were trying to cram a year into 3 months.

[easternsky]

I think it varies depending on the situation, I to a Grandparent of Divorce where the Grandchildren were shuffled back and forth every few days with schedule changing constantly do to a parents work schedule. They are almost grown now, and are advocates for not doing shared custody.