Yep.... it is a real perversion.
As Dr. Ben Carson pointed out in a very politically incorrect manner the other day, some circumstances can facilitate an easy transition into the habit. Does this explain every case, maybe not, but it is noteworthy.
My theory is an incorporation theory. It’s about incorporating meanness into sex, which furthers a spiritual abuse problem. It is generally said about rape that it is about power more than it is about traditional ideas of sex. This too.