[Drew68]

That's just crazy. My goodness, how did your wife take to all the English being spoken in America?

She learned English just fine. Why should a Russian be forced to speak Ukrainian? But she lived in Ukraine, you might say. And we come to the crux of this dilemma.

[GeronL]

It was Russia that forced other countries to learn Russian, which they are now doing in Crimea, not the other way around.

[Ivan Mazepa]

If Gaelic was spoken by most of Ireland and they asked everyone else to speak it, then everyone there should comply with this request, it's their country.

Why should a Russian be forced to speak Ukrainian? But she lived in Ukraine, you might say. And we come to the crux of this dilemma.

Exactly.
Fyi, the thing with your wife, this Russian superiority complex, it's not just vis-a-vis Ukrainians. Russians have the same problem everywhere else in the former Soviet republics, so I know it's not a Ukrainian issue. It's a sense of entitlement issue that some Russians have. I say "some" because there are a whole lot of ethnic Russians who are great Ukrainian citizens.