You keep it up and (like the nuns used to say) your face will freeze like that.
Posted on 01/28/2015 11:16:15 PM PST by grundle
>> Sounds like a hoax story to me. Something just does not smell right.
Yup.
The only apparent truth is the value of the full-time mom. No child should go without one save the extraordinary exceptions.
If this period in her life was any time after President Ford signed Nixon’s EITC bill, she’d have gotten cash every year from that (assuming she ever claimed the home income she made). Likewise, Food Stamps and other rent assistance programs were available. Not one mention of any of that in the story.
Regardless, it seems like it was a choice she made for her own reasons and that’s her business I guess. I just find it curious about why the explanations of it now have to be told. Lots of people have struggles like this.
When I was working and going full time to college after the Air Force and my wife worked all day in a bakery, we put our son in a daycare. I remember the lady, Miss Mincy....wonderful woman who looked after our son and others. My son never suffered because of this. He remembers Miss Mincy to this day (he’ll be 40 in March).
I know a couple who seemed to have a decent standard of living, but when they divorced all they were splitting was debt; he left her the house, and she quickly lost it to the bank.
I think many people are living on debt like this.
Supposedly couples are staying together more today for the financial reasons you describe; that was a real incentive to stay married for centuries (economic stability). I have no problem with that, though I also think (if marriages are in fact lasting longer) it is because only people who REALLY want to get married today do so.
It has become so common (and accepted) to simply live & breed together; men that want no part of alimony may be willing to be on the hook for child support.
TV makes it seem so easy and amicable...
Indeed. My first question upon reading her "riches to rags" story was, "well, why did you get a divorce?"
But we're not allowed to ask those questions. We're supposed to commiserate with her struggles while leaving the details of her divorce private.
Maybe her husband was an alcoholic, drug-using, cheating, violent scumbag? We don't know. She doesn't say. If we go by statistics though, she would've initiated the divorce for the most mundane reasons, such as boredom with the marriage, growing apart, etc.
But we don't know for certain. The most important part of the story was left out.
I salute you !!
wait, this can’t be right.
There’s no mention of EBT cards or Section 8 or Free Cell phones or SNAP or....
check out her story
I’m thankful that I had a two parent home growing up. My father died when I was 29, that was 40 years ago, I still miss him. I still have my mother though, she’s 94.
I know you are just trying to be funny, but she divorced him, sold everything she had, bought a cheap car and moved. She raised three kids on family help and a job she could not always work because her son was constantly in trouble. She survived on her work, child support when it came and her grandparents pantry. (Grandma was a serial bargain shopper). She never took food stamps, HUD, cell phone, medical or any kind of help. Some people are still wired that way you know!
That’s quite likely - perhaps they were living beyond their means a bit prior to the divorce.
My mother told me when I was young, “Just because one is poor doesn’t mean (necessarily) one has no dignity”. We choose to lack integrity. Money has nothing to do with it.
from the posted link: (click on read more)
https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/i-lived-in-poverty-to-save-my-son-from-daycare-108291746313.html
When my son was an infant, just learning to pull himself up and creep along low level furniture, he was mauled by a dog.
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My son did not quickly recover his belief that he’s safe in the world separate from me.
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Putting him into daycare for 40 to 50 hours a week would have undermined the hard work we’d both put into restoring his self-confidence.
Instead of taking a job that would have required my son being under someone else’s care for the bulk of the work week, I took a job I could do from home, on my own schedule.
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Financial poverty was my choice. I made it because I knew that being in daycare would take emotional health from my son that no amount of money could replace. I never asked anyone else to be responsible for my choice though. We never received public assistance.
thank you. I should have used the sarcasm tag.
Hanging tough to work it out, with family help - it seems to happen more than we realize.
Happened to my sister and me in the 50’s.(My dad got custody of us..in the 50’s ?) a different story for a different time.
Can’t speak to the specifics of this situation, but the specifics of MY situation.
We spent $10,000 in Oct 2012-Feb 2013 (most of it from my income) on lawyer fees winning custody of her oldest son after her ex absconded with her son. Because my income is higher, I pay almost twice to my ex, what her ex pays to her, although he is not burdened by paying back student loans — which my child support does not take into account.
In August 2013, my wife decide to go half-time at work so she could home school the kids, so our income dropped. She also said her ex was unemployed, to explain how her child support was no longer coming in.
I have discovered she has cheated on me with 4 different people just from Aug 2012-Jan 2015. I also discovered she was hiding that child support income so she could save up enough to move out. She says she doesn’t love me anymore.
With her working half-time and hiding her child support income, the finances are barely breaking even. If she pulls her income by leaving (and accounting for her $360/month student loans, her gas, her car insurance etc) that would put my finances about $700 in the negative. If I end up having to pay $1,200 child support for 2 kids, that will put be $1,900. Since the mortgage is about $1,500, I would be $400 in the hole each month even if I could find a place to live for free.
I have already told her I have no intention of being a slave just because “she no longer loves me”, and will basically just leave the country to start over somewhere from scratch, with no obligations or debts. I have already found such a place, although it will be very dangerous to go there, and I may likely end up dead in a few months, I’d rather die on my feet, than live on my knees.
I assume that you two have no children together?
You keep it up and (like the nuns used to say) your face will freeze like that.
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