My wife and I got married in our mid-20s (to each other, yes) and have been married for over 20 years now.
My wife has been told, by two different women in my old college/post-college social circle, that they hate her because THEY intended to land me. But in our early 30s after they “had a little fun first”. Instead my wife unfairly landed me about five years early. By the time they got their itches scratched, the market for nice guys (I’m not perfect by any strech of the imagination, but I do try to be a decent and attentive husband, father and human being) had pretty much dried up.
Not that I would have allowed myself to be landed by them under such circumstances.
A few years ago (while in my mid 30’s), a lot of women I knew in college starting reaching out to me on things like LinkedIn.
It confused me, till my bride said “They are trying to see if you are still available.”
So I started replying to them with a picture of my bride and kids.