I think we are coming to this topic from two different, yet valid, directions: your experiences, and the experiences of an ex-girlfriend of mine. Perhaps the truth lies someone in the middle.
It was been an interesting conversation. Best wishes.
Ooh, I am so scared: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRa4v8R7DD4 Best to you too. And, she was just an ex-girlfriend.