The churches should give up their secular role of signing off on the legal aspects of marriage and just do the spiritual nuptials. A couple should do their legal stuff at the county clerk. Their church can do the spiritual wedding and therefore can legally refuse to do Gay weddings.
The only cudgel the Gays have is this mythical right not to be discriminated against and if the secular roles that churches have to register a legal marriage are given up by them, the Gays would have no legal rights to sue a church under the 1st Amendment.
A church could say to a gay couple...”we can’t do legal marriages here, you’ll need to go down to the Justice of the peace. Hetero’s unfortunately would have to get their marriages similarly registered but they could still have a church wedding blessed by their community and God. A church can refuse to do a Gay wedding service on spiritual grounds or the gays can look to find a more accommodating church and minister as there are scores around who will accommodate them...but the Gays will have no legal grounds to sue.
“The churches should give up their secular role of signing off on the legal aspects of marriage and just do the spiritual nuptials. A couple should do their legal stuff at the county clerk. Their church can do the spiritual wedding and therefore can legally refuse to do Gay weddings.”
I think that is the only solution at this point. That, and people who are coerced into participating (cakes and venues and such) should make it clear that the profits will be donated to a group like the FRC.
You don't seem to get it at all. You speak as though you think homos have to abide by some system of rules. My point in my post, and recent events have born out, is that the current leftist regime, of which homofascists are a powerful branch, are above the rules. Churches not being qualified to solomnize marriages will not satisfy them. Unquestioning APPROVAL across the board is what they demand and won't settle without.