I see so many of my friends raising their children to believe that they have marvelous futures ahead of them because they are just so WONDERFUL and SPECIAL that they will surely be rewarded just for showing up.
My folks taught us that we had a reasonable future ahead of us if we found out what we were good at and worked like dogs to make it happen.
Once I was goofing around with my Dad and I said, “Maybe I’ll just marry a rich man!” He replied, “Where are you going to meet him? At the bus stop?”
So yes, to make it, you have to show up...but you have to show up with SOMETHING.
TOTALLY agree! My husband has three children from his ex liberal, socialist works-for-child-protective-services-in-NY shrew.
The oldest just barely graduated high school with a 1.7 GPA and is a pot fiend (which Mommy denies). Mommykins has helicopter, coddled and medicated all three into oblivion.
She fills them with pipe dreams—she’s told the oldest he’s going to be the next X-Factor or American Idol discovery. The kid has NO musical talent and sounds like a cat with his tail on fire. She sends the two boys off to Rock Star Camp every year without fail ($500 a week per person).
Now we’ve found out through facebook that she’s shipped off the oldest to live with his alternative lifestyle Uncle and his “spouse” who are known to have pot/booze parties with minors. No plans for the future—that is until he turns 20—she’ll cram him into community college to collect the extra child support that can continue well past the age of 21 here in biomom-centric NY. (search engine: Age 29 Law)
She’s made the daughter, almost 16, a quasi lesbian, militant feminist who manages to play tonsil hockey with a 19 year old GUY. All with mommykins approval.
And because this is NYS where men have ZERO rights to their own children, absolutely NOTHING can be done about it withoug incurring six figures of legal fees.
Talk about the failed self esteem movement!