Disclaimer:
* The best means of conversation is eyeball to eyeball.
* Down the list is the telephone, where at least one can pick up clues of humor, sincerity or sarcasm.
* Way down the list in the written word, with pecious few clues of the intended meaning, greater probability of miss-interpretation, and the onset of the useless flame and blame downward spiral.
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What say all of you?
The bestest example of this is facebook.
My sister got so pissed off at my my cousin she sent me the conversation.
I reviewed it and could see how it could be misconstrued.
I could also see how my cousin was being facetious.
I asked my sis if she had talked to my cousin. She had not and will not.
Talk to your important friends and family. Don’t text them.
Thanks for making my point!
Point out to your Sis, the many, Many, MANY flaws that both of you agree that your cousin has.
Then slip in the idea that such a flawed human being is doing the best that he/she can.
Let the idea sit there for a few days or weeks, and bring the subject up again to you flawless Sister.
I've tried to convey this to my kids and those that have worked for me.
Don't confuse email and text with an actual conversation.