Good post and I agree. I have a nephew in law who committed murder and I still felt empathy for his dad.
I think that's a big difference between the white and black communities. Sure white kids from good families commit horrible, violent crimes. It happens all the time. The difference is that you don't tend to see excuses being made.
As the father of two sons, I'd like to think that if this were one of my boys who got killed trying to rob someone, I'd grieve privately and in public, I'd apologize for his actions.