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Austin, I would never dispute that two men or two women could do a good job at many parenting tasks--- in the sense of being able to feed, clothe, shelter and educate a child, be warm and responsive, shield him from danger, and foster his God-given gifts. These competencies may be found in SS couples as in mom & dad couples... as well as in orphanages, group homes, mother-grandmother households, or any number of permutations and combinations of caregivers. Clarence THomas was raised by his grandfather: so even a single-parent home can produce well-raised kids.

But the very fact that the child is set up for a planned adoption by two men or two women, means they -- or the agency that set it up --- think that there is nothing particularly desirable about natural fatherhood and motherhood and/or that a child has no right to his mother.

They're deficient in the very area where diversity and balance counts: diversity in relating to a father AND a mother, and balance in experiencing day by day the affective complementarity of marriage: of a man and a woman in a good marital relationship.

Walker Percy and his two younger brothers were raised well by their homosexual but singleton second cousin, William Alexander Percy, when their parents both (apparently) committed suicide. God protect those who are thrust by happenstance into a broken situation. Bless the caregivers, imperfect as they may be, who do as well as they can. Sometimes --- often --- a child could get stuck in a an unbalanced situation by tragedy or chance.

But it should not be imposed on any child by choice.

That's what's wrong with this whole situation. These homosexual men are not responding to the felt needs of a motherless child who needed somebody, some generous person to step into his broken situation and help him. No. They CREATED the broken situation by plan. They MADE that child motherless; they signed a contract that will KEEP him motherless; they paid the money and, via a tech team and a rented woman, they concocted a boy.

Though they may treat him well, as an expensive pet, they have already violated his dignity as a human being.

Hi Mrs D. I hear what you are saying and it sounds very well intentioned and authentic. I respect your position, totally.

I am at a loss as to how to respond regarding judgement on how or why a baby comes to be. I just don’t go into the judgement aspect of it. The baby is an innocent. If he feels loved, and is loved, I’m not sure he’d agree the situation is “broken.”

Thank you for being reasonable.