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I do understand that based on DNA findings, twins with identical DNA can wind up with different sexual orientations. But I still have questions, and I haven't heard/read anything that may explain the following. For instance, you're born a male, but very early in your childhood, you realize that sexually you're attracted to other males. You may or may not display feminine tendencies, but you're only turned on by your homosexual feelings for another male. And so you appear to all the world as a heterosexual male, but your true sexual preference is homosexual. Now, baring any homosexual abuse at home or from outside influences, what determines your sexuality? If DNA is not the key, then what determines our sexual preferences?

I'm not a scientist, but a person who has questions. Your sarcastic remark about “opening my eyes and observing the real world, rather than my preferred answers” is not necessary. We're here on FR to read posts, to learn and to feel free to ask questions, in the hopes of finding answers.

One of the reasons may be the greater vulnerability of males to psychological "imprinting", especially around the age of puberty. So if a young boy is exposed to homosexual abuse or imagery, he may develop an obsession or a fetish. The gay movement is ready and waiting with a whole cult of behavior and an entire vocabulary of nonsense about how certain behaviors are an "identity" or that one is "born that way" -- without one shred of biological proof.

Regardless of how one feels, behavior is a choice. Feelings can change. If a male has developed an obsesssion with a cult of behaviors that is troublesome to his life, he needs to deal with it spiritually and/or with therapy.

Perhaps it would be more clear to look at sexual preference as a fetish, moreso than a fundamental “group identity”. We’re all blessed with a drive to engage in sex. Our species depends on it. That drive manifests in many millions of micro-influences, micro-decisions and reinforcements over a lifetime. People aren’t born with a fetish for feet or bondage or whips either. Over time and lots of various reinforcements those things become more prominent for them until its the only thing that pushes the right pleasure center. Those things change over time too.

For many, childhood trauma will change the course of their lives to the point where otherwise normal desires are unthinkable. An unpleasant experience teaches them to think in other directions instead. It’s not even necessary to be one major event, but a set of smaller influences, early enough in life that any clear memory is long gone and they will naturally believe that they have “always been this way”.