Please have the talk with your wife.
The toughest part of the discussions my husband and I had was figuring out the DNR issue, in case either of us had a heart attack.
We did our homework. We researched how hard CPR had to be done to restore heart rhythm, and we were shocked to discover that to be done effectively, our ribs would probably be broken, and that the resuscitation statistics in the elderly weren’t very promising.
In younger people, it is different, of course.
He decided against it, considering how his Parkinson’s would complicate a recovery. Even though I am in better health than my husband, I have decided to make my end-of-life wishes very clear, so our children will not end up arguing about these matters.
I am very afraid of one or another of the children trying to keep me alive at all costs. I pray to go quickly, but only God knows.
My Grandmother passed away at home and because her caregiver did not have the DNR (a family member had it).. they had to go through all of the resuscitation protocol. She was gone, but to this day I cannot forget how this violated her remains... my Mother was so very upset when she saw her body. Horrible.