Very true. There’s no way to have a 3rd way or a compromise. Either a church will allow homosexual marriage or it won’t. Either they will allow and affirm open homosexuality, or they will hold to traditional teachings that such behavior is sinful. Choices will have to be made.
It’s quite possible that years from now, that most mainstream denominations will have split into two groups over this issue.
The large Southern Baptist Church that I had attended, and to which my mother still belongs, has at least one member that I know of in an open, homosexual relationship (he used to be my boss.) I don’t know what the church’s extent of knowledge on this relationship is, but when they do become aware of it, it will be interesting to see what happens. The church subscribes to the “welcoming” philosophy of “doing church,” and I don’t think they have ever ex-communicated anyone. The first time will likely be a house shaker, if it even happens.