The classic bible of co dependency is Co Dependent No More by Melody Beattie..I would also recommend for your daughter’s support the 12 Step Group for families of an alcoholic “Al Anon”. It is annonymous, free and very helpful.
Well thank you very much for taking the time.
In fact, I will get that book about Co Dependent you mention as daughter really needs it.
She is such an enabler. And while I am no expert, I do know that when you drive your husband to purchase his alcohol, THAT’s being an enabler!
Now, to be fair, she argues back that if he doesn’t get drunk at night he stays up all night and bothers her, he paces, he goes nuts. She drives him just so she can have an evening of peace.
Hey, I repeat what it is....guys this past week I learned so much about that pathetic marriage even though I live across the street!
Melissa drives him everywhere. When they lived in Baltimore she got up at 5 in the am and drove him to work, taking her daughter out of bed then putting her back in bed until time for school upon return home. Then sometimes she had to wait around until he called to be picked up, all the while moving daughter from school to bed and back.
THIS is why I took a reverse mortgage on my house and bought her one. Because half the time husband didn’t go to work because he was too hungover. Then Melissa still had to get out of bed and drive Kaitlyn to school.
It was breaking my heart but no way could she and Kaitlyn live with me and sick husband. My husband was willing to buy Melissa a house like I did after his death knowing he was in approval. But them living with us wasn’t going to go.
So Melissa’s husband brings NOTHING to the equation. He has no job, no money, no driver’s license, a nasty drinking habit. Why would she take him back? He’s got something hanging below his knees? Melissa tells me definitely not.
Finally, and this is the clincher....the guy wets the bed when he drinks! Whole family does! How disgusting is that?
Anyway.....this was coming. Melissa’s doing okay but Mike’s calling up everyone and blaming it all on....TADA!!!!
ME!
You got to laff.
The classic bible of co dependency is Co Dependent No More by Melody Beattie