well, I share your disgust at the lawyers that fan the flames. There are however, those of us in the practice that advise these cheaters what their neighbors, pastors, parents and colleagues are too weak to say: You need to understand, your children do NOT care about your “happiness”, they will be mortified and embarrassed by your ridiculous conduct, and you will rupture the relationship with them forever even if they play along. What kids want and deserve is an intact family that bands together against an uncaring and cold world and provides them a safe haven in which to grow up and develop.
THANK YOU. When my mother left my father and I objected to it, the response I got from my mother was, 'Don't you want me to be happy?' And the counselor she took me to called me judgmental for not wanting her to leave my father.
Our relationship still hasn't recovered, and she's still wondering why. But refuses to listen when she asks and I try to tell her.