Agreed.
I taught my daughter from day one. Material things come and go. Some things, those that define you, can never be replaced. It has served her very well to date.
I was never in the military due to medical issues but I have left VERY good jobs over ethical issues and taken severe financial hits over it (two occasions). One took years to recover from. I do not regret it for a second. Life would have been far better to have just gone with the flow. “Better” being a relative thing. I’d have had more toys but hated myself.
I chose wisely.