It’s liberating isn’t it? Suddenly all the grief they cause gust goes away and you can think clearly.
People that have yet to do it just don’t realize the box they are keeping themselves in...or more accurately, are being kept in. If people would just consider the obvious...How many family functions cause some version of the thought “Oh great...how long before (relative) starts in with the BS?”? EVERY other member of that family is thinking the same. And what of ‘Freinds”? Personally I don’t see how someone that looks at (the general) you and their beliefs mark you as a racist homophobe bullying bigot can be any definition of a ‘friend’.
Relationships change. People change. and not always for the better. I will never understand why people are so willing to dwell in misery just to avoid ending that misery.
There are relationships in life that cannot be mended, be it a family member or otherwise. It’s something we must face and deal with. They make their move, and you make yours. And that’s life.