If they have a dress code and it’s not being followed, then that should be referenced in the letter. Absolutely no need to bring up the matter of gender confusion in an eight year old. It’s unnecessary and isn’t germane to the dress code. Nor is it any of their business unless they are licensed professionals qualified to diagnose children.
The dress code makes no reference to hair length for girls and the girl is not sporting an extreme hair cut or color, so should not be referenced in the letter because it’s not an actionable issue under their code.
Sound like there might be somebody who feels like the girl may be dressing to the letter of law, but not in the spirit of the law in being tom boyish, chubby and possibly slovenly (playing in the mud) all of which is NORMAL for 8 year olds of either gender.
Can’t help but wonder if we have adults stupidly sexualizing the non sexual in children. Or some well meaning git wanted to make a project of the child, prettify her, teach her to be interested in feminine ways and the eight year old resisted because she’s, you know, only eight and doesn’t care about that stuff right now.
Wouldn’t be the first “Aunt Polly” types who complicated things with their well meant but unwanted concerns about unimportant trivia in a church setting.
Gender confusion is a term. It is not a licensed term. This group uses it within the parameters of their own religious understandings. They know what they mean by it, and to be honest, since I've a lot of experience with other religions, I know what they mean by it. Unless licensed professionals are ordained within their religious community, then they really don't get to have an opinion in that Christian school.
The dress code makes no reference to hair length for girls and the girl is not sporting an extreme hair cut or color
Here's their dress code and appearance code. "Extreme" is not defined, therefore, it is their definition. dress code
slovenly....NORMAL...
I assume they are the administrators of that school and that their interpretations are based on their understandings of their own code and their own religious beliefs. We have a lot of Amish in our area wearing long dresses and bonnets ALWAYS. Even in their schools. If a little Amish girl went in with a butch cut and raggedy blue jeans would THEY be within their rights to direct otherwise?
sexualizing...prettify
And that paragraph makes me wonder why some don't just let religious people be themselves. That is what tolerance means. You live with differences.