“Why is personal responsibility an antiquated concept? “
Informed personal responsibility. You can see the water, but don’t know if there are almonds in your muffin, or walnuts in your pesto. Personal responsibility has to extend to the food server, who should know what they are putting on the table.
You should stick to triple-washed celery and carrot sticks. The rest of the world should not have to subsidize your personal need to harass restaurant workers with your muffin and pesto inquisitions.
And then you’d have to convey the entire set of ingredients to the customer, something that many restaurants consider privileged information (and probably something the waiter might not even know).