my own experience at that age, turned me away from the church for decades.
I held back when I was offered the holiest of holies....I had visions of some sort of demonic future in the fiery pits.......
after that I kicked myself in the butt for years for missing that opportunity, but truth be known that girl wound up ‘in trouble’ from another boy some months later, and as an ignorant/immature 14 years old I am sure I wouldn’t have known how to be ‘safe’ or how or where to buy protection even if I did know....
that was 51 years ago....I still consider myself RC thought I am sure the Church wouldn’t. I have a my own set of rules.
I am a Hybrid Catholic....and I am sure I will get taken to the woodshed by some here for saying it.
a.k.a. a Protestant. At least, be honest.