A mile or so down the street a family has built a shrine at an intersection where their 19 year old son was killed by a drunk driver. I feel for them but there comes a time when you have to let go and move on.
I know a family back in the 80s whose 12 year old daughter was killed when her bicycle was hit by a car. They kept the mangled bike in her room along with framed pictures of their dead child hanging on the walls.
With that said, if the cross in on her property she should be allowed to do as she pleases.
Keeping the mangled bike in a dead child’s room is indeed a little unhealthy. But the roadside shrines and crosses are not in the same category, in my view. They serve as a reminder and a warning to passers-by: This is a dangerous crossing, life is transient, there but for the grace of God go you, don’t drink and drive, don’t text and drive, etc. I always pay more attention when I see a roadside cross or flower-covered shrine. At least let the death be a warning.