[marron]

Legislatures and courts are ruling that “gay” is an identity category, like race or physical handicap, and not a behavior category, like being drunk-and-disorderly.

You've just put your finger on the distinction and the problem. Once people lose their moral compass, the law loses all rationality.

[Tax-chick]

I think you’re making a defensible distinction between providing service to a person and participating in an event.