[PapaBear3625]

There’s a pretty good book about a movement (if something spontaneous can be so categorised) of “Men On Strike”-men who are dropping out of dating and marriage. It makes the case that the men who choose to make their lives around their jobs and playing video games, aren’t being “Peter Pan”, they’ve just opted out of the usual expected trajectory of dating then marrying, because marriage these days, for a man, is like playing Russian Roulette with only one bullet missing. Even living with a woman can get you bankrupted and lose your children. Just a one-night-stand can land a man in prison if the woman has “drunken remorse”, which is a defense that men are never allowed to consider.

There's also "Men Going Their Own Way" (MGTOW), similar but distinct from "men on strike". The MGTOW philosophy is that men should not have themselves be defined by women and not have women dictate what men's goals and behavior should be. That men do not exist for the primary purpose of saving women from their own mistakes.

[mrsmel]

Ha, my husband has lived by that philosophy since before it had an acronym. He’s very good to me and I love him, but he makes it perfectly clear to me and the wide world that he will do things on his terms if he does them at all, and he never deviates from his own path. The funny thing is, even having that philosophy, he’s the best person I’ve ever known. But he does good because he thinks it’s the thing for him to do, not because he feels obligated or that he owes anyone anything.